WE ARE CHRIST'S FRAGRANCE...

The Bible says we are the aroma (fragrance) of Christ. Let's spread that fragrance around!

2 Corinthians 2:15, : For we are to God the aroma of Christ, among those who are being saved and those who are perishing.




Tuesday, September 18, 2007

What's Abuse?


It's said Emotional abuse is a hard form of abuse to define...
Psychological/Emotional Abuse
the hardest form of abuse to define

this form of abuse can include name-calling, ridicules, degradation, destruction, torture, excessive criticism, inappropriate or excessive demands, withholding communication, and routine labeling or humiliations. Victims of this type of abuse usually react in ways such a distancing fighting back by insulting others or the abuser. According to readings, emotional abuse can result in abnormal or disrupted attachment disorder, a tendency for victims to blame themselves for the abuse, learned helplessness, and over passive behavior.This form of abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationships, bullying, child abuse and in the work place. it was once reported that children whose families are characterized by interpersonal violence, including psychological aggression and verbal aggression, may exhibit a range of serious disorders, including chronic depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress dissociation and anger.


WHAT'S ABUSE?~By: Becky
I'm not trying to define abuse here. Its been done too many times already and most girls are probably told a gazillion times over what it means.
But I do want to refine the definition of abuse.
Many often believe that a girl is abused when her virginity is stolen from her or when she has been taken advantage of sexually. True.
But let me stretch this a bit further. Not many are aware that emotional abuse rates higher than sexual abuse these days amongst young girls.
What things qualify for emotional abuse?

If any man (young or old, friend or relative, handsome or not) leads you to believe that he loves you when HE REALLY DOESN'T, disassociate yourself with this person.
If any a person you are in a relationship with always demands things of you, requires you to do stuff for them and if you are doing it willing in the name of LOVE, you're in for a big surprise............its NOT LOVE!
If any person you are in a relationship with disregards your desires, wants, wishes and has an EGO that rules the relationship, my friend, you're being abused!!!
VERY IMPORTANT: If any person makes you believe that he loves you and leads you to sexual talk and activity very often, its time to get alert and call it quits.
If a person that you respect, look up to or admire and love in a clean way (relatives, leaders, employers, professors) starts talking personal and intimate stuff.....its time to draw the lines and stop speaking to the person.
If a person makes you think its your fault that he has sexually used you, that's emotional abuse of the worst degree!
I can go on with the list but the point is not to intimidate you but to make you aware.
Always remember, its never too late to talk to someone or to walk out of an emotionally abusive relationship.
Cheers!
Becky.

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