Abused?

Hi ...

 How often young girls, women go through physical, emotional and verbal abuse and have no place to turn to.

Like physical abuse,  emotional and verbal abuse too is hard to heal and forget. How often people you totally trust, hurt your emotions and betray your trust and make you feel used and abused? And to add to it they rejoice at your suffering instead of  lending a helping hand. 

How often you find yourself share your feelings in trust to a friend and that friend betrays your trust?

How often you feel used and abused in a relationship? One day they'll praise you, say you are the best and appreciate you and when they find someone else they can communicate with, they just walk away without a word and even if you should see them, stop by to smile and say "Hello", they just turn away and pretend they didn't see or know you.
Why is it so...often the abuser gets away and the abused is traumatized and victimized for life?

You know it's natural you get angry   frustrated to see an abused as the accused and abusers walk free but fear not you have a God who understands every pain, emotional and physical for He went through it all on the cross. He endured not just the ultimate physical pain, but the pain of rejection, which rend His heart, that He cried out, "Father, Father, why have you forsaken me." So today you need to turn to Him and He'll understand you like no other. Loved ones and people you trust may hurt you, walk away, breach your trust, talk behind your back and leave you feeling emotionally hurt.

But remember Jesus Christ your Lord loves you and knows all you go through and He will never ever turn His back on you. Will you cry out to Him, He's waiting with open arms to hold you and heal you.
Let's do all we can to stop all kinds of abuse and be sensitive to the feeling of the abused.

Be blessed,

YSIC,

Julia

STOP CHILD ABUSE!

STOP CHILD ABUSE!
Let's pray for emotional and physical healing of the abused..

What's Abuse?

It's said Emotional abuse is a hard form of abuse to define...

http://students.cis.uab.edu/bremo08/psychological%20abuse.html

Psychological/Emotional Abuse

the hardest form of abuse to define

this form of abuse can include name-calling, ridicules, degradation, destruction, torture, excessive criticism, inappropriate or excessive demands, withholding communication, and routine labeling or humiliations. Victims of this type of abuse usually react in ways such a distancing fighting back by insulting others or the abuser. According to readings, emotional abuse can result in abnormal or disrupted attachment disorder, a tendency for victims to blame themselves for the abuse, learned helplessness, and over passive behavior.This form of abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationships, bullying, child abuse and in the work place. it was once reported that children whose families are characterized by interpersonal violence, including psychological aggression and verbal aggression, may exhibit a range of serious disorders, including chronic depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress dissociation and anger.

WHAT'S ABUSE?~By: Becky

I'm not trying to define abuse here. Its been done too many times already and most girls are probably told a gazillion times over what it means.

But I do want to refine the definition of abuse.

Many often believe that a girl is abused when her virginity is stolen from her or when she has been taken advantage of sexually. True.

But let me stretch this a bit further. Not many are aware that emotional abuse rates higher than sexual abuse these days amongst young girls.

What things qualify for emotional abuse?

If any man (young or old, friend or relative, handsome or not) leads you to believe that he loves you when HE REALLY DOESN'T, disassociate yourself with this person.

If any a person you are in a relationship with always demands things of you, requires you to do stuff for them and if you are doing it willing in the name of LOVE, you're in for a big surprise............its NOT LOVE!

If any person you are in a relationship with disregards your desires, wants, wishes and has an EGO that rules the relationship, my friend, you're being abused!!!

VERY IMPORTANT: If any person makes you believe that he loves you and leads you to sexual talk and activity very often, its time to get alert and call it quits.

If a person that you respect, look up to or admire and love in a clean way (relatives, leaders, employers, professors) starts talking personal and intimate stuff.....its time to draw the lines and stop speaking to the person.

If a person makes you think its your fault that he has sexually used you, that's emotional abuse of the worst degree!

I can go on with the list but the point is not to intimidate you but to make you aware.

Always remember, its never too late to talk to someone or to walk out of an emotionally abusive relationship.

Cheers!

Becky.

You are loved (Girls please read)

Here below is something written by Becky...

Julia

Hi,

     I’ve come to understand that every young girl dreams of a ‘perfect’ wedding more than any other thing in her life. The sheer suspense of whom it will be that she will spend her entire life with fills her fantasies. She will often spend hours wondering who she will dance with on her wedding day, laugh with when she’s happy, cry to when she’s sad and shout at when she’s angry.

     Being totally aware of how imperfect the world is, every girl stills dreams of a ‘perfect’ man. And surprisingly, ‘perfect’ here doesn’t mean financially sound, academically brilliant or physically charming. It simply means someone who loves her unconditionally. Very clichéd, but absolutely true. Every girl, no matter what race, what colour, what nationality or culture; wants to be loved.

     Is this why young girls are taken advantage of everyday in this world? Is this why they are robbed of their innocence every minute? Even as I write this mail some girl some where is being raped, molested or sexually assaulted. Scary but true.

     I have a message today for young girls. Not for their offenders. Not for people who walk into their lives, make them feel loved for a while and walk out. Not for those who mislead them. Just for the girls.

     Jesus loves you. Just as you are. Unconditionally. He cares. If He would want to pick anyone from this earth to spend eternity with, it would be you. He knows how like being loved. He knows what you looks good on you. He knows when to speak to you and tell you just what you want to hear. He knows you like being held more than anything else in the world. He loves you.

     Let’s not ignore such great love for what might seem tangible and momentary.

    “For your Maker is your Husband, the Lord Almighty is His name. The Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer- He is called the God of all the earth.” Isaiah 54:5

    “I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and in justice, in love and in compassion.” Hosea 2:19

     “Therefore now I am going to allure her; I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her….In that day, you will call me ‘my Husband’; you will no longer call me ‘my Master’. Hosea 2: 14:16

     I didn’t intend for this to be a chain mail thing but please pass this on to as many young girls as possible- sisters, cousins, daughters, friends, mates, etc. There may be people you know who are going through the toughest of things like abuse and emotional harassment that you never know of. It’s not something that can be detected. Do it for someone who needs it. 

God bless you.

Love,

Becky.